Azalo,
I dont think its right to be df'd for something that i never really did since the baptism is really only a symbol of the dedication and i never did that.
I am having difficulty understanding this statement. Do the elders want to DF you for something of which you say you are innocent? Baptism is the outward display of your dedication - So, were you never baptised? or, you were never dedicated leading up to baptism?
If you are baptized, you can either 'fade away', disassociate, or have the elders disfellowship you. Your choice.
cheeses (of the-one-who-gets-confused-at-times-class)